Ok, ok, I have a brand new guess and I am totally sure it's not it but it certainly fits all the clues:
My Brightest Diamond - This Is My Hand
1. Female Artist
CHECK
2. (Unofficial hint) NOT one of Teeee's top 5 pop albums of the decade:
CHECK
3. Post November 1964 (Ronettes album)
CHECK
4. Artist born in USA
CHECK
5. Artist has never performed with Beyoncé
CHECK
6. Artist's 4th album
CHECK, without considering the EPs and the remix albums
7. Genre is pop-rock/pop-singer/songwriter, not just "straight up singer songwriter". Not a choreographer. Not stereotypical pop.
CHECK
8. Artist did not perform at Lillith Fair
CHECK
9.
@gouis (who doesn't like pop much) would/might/does like the album
CHECK, I guess?
10. Album is from this decade (2010-now)
CHECK
11.
This album has the song "I am not the bad guy", so
CHECK
12. The artist is still alive.
CHECK
13. EPs don't count as albums in Teeeee's counting of albums.
CHECK
14. JqBX got a clue but probably doesn't know it.
I have no clue about this, but let's say that CHECK