Bull Shannon
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My brother in-law, who I love tons and get along with well, has always had this undercurrent of (for lack of better description) right-leaning cultural views which seem to come with being Very Online. I've been guilty of this too, at least in a leftist manner, taking in opposing views from anonymous twitter accounts and commentators and sometimes forgetting that the general public face-to-face isn't as extreme or strident and unbudging as the teeming masses online.
This usually takes the form of idle conversations where he posits "well-intended questions" such as "in a world of such ambiguity, how does one know they're not behaving in a way that'll get them Me Too'd?", "how am I meant to keep track of everyone's pronouns?", or "if all movies are made in their present cultural context, what amount of retrograde culture is and isn't okay to keep watching?" I usually try not to get into the weeds, keeping to simple common-sense answers like "well, you know better than to violate someone's bodily autonomy or personal space," "if someone prefers a different pronoun, they'll let you know,"and "politics and culture are always changing, and that's always been a factor in the entertainment we choose." It all feels like stuff he clashes with as a thought experiment, and never in actual day-to-day life.
Recently, he brought up the Rings of Power and the blowback in its colorblind casting. And then he brought up the all-female Ghostbusters reboot. And how people who criticize those things for racist/sexist/political reasons seem to get lumped in with those who have valid grievances with the content itself. And he started sharing videos from a youtuber who claims his issues with modern movies has nothing to do with his own sensibilities, but rather that woke influences are diluting them; the issue isn't that Amazon cast a black elf, it's that Amazon is probably casting a black elf to appease the Woke Mob. And, golly, there's an odd trend across his other videos, in the sense that the movies he has issues with all feature women or people of color.
I've been stewing over this, and I'm not upset with my brother in-law, but I'm really mad at the choice of opinions he's taking in. He knows "I'm not racist but" is the lead-in to a racist statement, yet he seems really fixated on sidling as close as possible to a racist/sexist viewpoint. I really avoid getting into controversial political discussion, as I can get heated and unseated real quick, and I'm worried this shit is going to come up when I see him this weekend.
This usually takes the form of idle conversations where he posits "well-intended questions" such as "in a world of such ambiguity, how does one know they're not behaving in a way that'll get them Me Too'd?", "how am I meant to keep track of everyone's pronouns?", or "if all movies are made in their present cultural context, what amount of retrograde culture is and isn't okay to keep watching?" I usually try not to get into the weeds, keeping to simple common-sense answers like "well, you know better than to violate someone's bodily autonomy or personal space," "if someone prefers a different pronoun, they'll let you know,"and "politics and culture are always changing, and that's always been a factor in the entertainment we choose." It all feels like stuff he clashes with as a thought experiment, and never in actual day-to-day life.
Recently, he brought up the Rings of Power and the blowback in its colorblind casting. And then he brought up the all-female Ghostbusters reboot. And how people who criticize those things for racist/sexist/political reasons seem to get lumped in with those who have valid grievances with the content itself. And he started sharing videos from a youtuber who claims his issues with modern movies has nothing to do with his own sensibilities, but rather that woke influences are diluting them; the issue isn't that Amazon cast a black elf, it's that Amazon is probably casting a black elf to appease the Woke Mob. And, golly, there's an odd trend across his other videos, in the sense that the movies he has issues with all feature women or people of color.
I've been stewing over this, and I'm not upset with my brother in-law, but I'm really mad at the choice of opinions he's taking in. He knows "I'm not racist but" is the lead-in to a racist statement, yet he seems really fixated on sidling as close as possible to a racist/sexist viewpoint. I really avoid getting into controversial political discussion, as I can get heated and unseated real quick, and I'm worried this shit is going to come up when I see him this weekend.