I have yet to figure out why anyone would EVER buy a house in a neighborhood with a HOA. I'm sorry, but you are not going to tell me what I can do in my house, park in my driveway or anything else related to my activities on my property as long as they are legal.
In North Carolina in the Charlotte suburb my aunt lives in you have your choice of HOAs. Every neighborhood has an HOA. You can't buy a house that's not part of a HOA. Some parts of our country are like that.