Political Discussion

The DUP are the largest unionist party in the north. They grew out of free Presbyterian and are extremely hard right on religious and social issues are extremely anti-Dublin. They are also the only pro brexit party in the north. They sunk May’s deal on those lines betting on Boris’ promise of no border down the Irish Sea.

Reversing those protocols is the DUPs biggest goal (well alongside resisting the implementation of abortion as decreed by U.K. courts and trying to overturn a similar U.K. court ban on conversion therapy but we digress) right now.
Ah yes, the DUP are insistent that NI should not be any different or divergent to GB, other than the exemptions they want for things they don't like.
 

Israel bombed the press in the Gaza strip :oops:
That’s obviously terrible but it’s a bit disheartening that the bombing of an empty building is treated as more newsworthy than more than the 40+ Palestinian children that have been killed in these attacks thus far.
 
I'm trying to find that fine line with Facebook. This past year really made me realize the superficial relationships on Facebook aren't healthy. I remember my wife being upset that others were taking vacations when we weren't able to due to her not having a job and us not needing to spend frivolously. Then I also realized I as well was comparing us to others which isn't healthy. We've been going through a hard time with one of our kids due to the pandemic, online learning, and teendom. I was finding myself looking back at those memories Facebook serves up of happier times. The catch though is those weren't always happier times. It was just the highlights of happy times that we put out for others to see. I need to deal with the here and now and not worry about how thing used to be. I told my wife that after the school year is over, as I have school related responsibilities that I still use Facebook for, that I was going to either delete or suspend my Facebook account. I really don't enjoy the people content of it any longer. I really enjoy the curated content I have like news about my sports teams, hobbies like record collecting, and other things I'm generally interested in that don't involve seeing what other people I know are doing. I was thinking I might create a new account that has no friends and is just that content. I've already deleted Facebook off my phone.
Tell your wife she isn't the only one who had to stop scrolling other people's feeds and coming out depressed. We also went through a tough time with money and with 2 kids on the autism spectrum, quarantine was hard for us. I deactivated FB around this time last year and I don't regret it.
 
I'm trying to find that fine line with Facebook. This past year really made me realize the superficial relationships on Facebook aren't healthy. I remember my wife being upset that others were taking vacations when we weren't able to due to her not having a job and us not needing to spend frivolously. Then I also realized I as well was comparing us to others which isn't healthy. We've been going through a hard time with one of our kids due to the pandemic, online learning, and teendom. I was finding myself looking back at those memories Facebook serves up of happier times. The catch though is those weren't always happier times. It was just the highlights of happy times that we put out for others to see. I need to deal with the here and now and not worry about how thing used to be. I told my wife that after the school year is over, as I have school related responsibilities that I still use Facebook for, that I was going to either delete or suspend my Facebook account. I really don't enjoy the people content of it any longer. I really enjoy the curated content I have like news about my sports teams, hobbies like record collecting, and other things I'm generally interested in that don't involve seeing what other people I know are doing. I was thinking I might create a new account that has no friends and is just that content. I've already deleted Facebook off my phone.

Tell your wife she isn't the only one who had to stop scrolling other people's feeds and coming out depressed. We also went through a tough time with money and with 2 kids on the autism spectrum, quarantine was hard for us. I deactivated FB around this time last year and I don't regret it.

I get where you all are coming from...FB is all braggers and complainers it seems. Oh, and advertisers, which was me. I used it almost daily to push the band - merch, gigs, new videos - and realized I was just spamming most of the time. But, with many of the gigs we booked, having an FB account was necessary to set up an event. Once the pandemic hit and I didn't have gigs booked, I finally was able to stop checking FB daily, then I only checked in once a week or so. Now I barely think about it, and yet still haven't ditched my account.

I like your approach @Chucktshoes with the streamlined friend list. I just know that once the band gets busy again I'll likely want the outreach that FB provides...but I'm very reluctant to dive back in.
 
I get where you all are coming from...FB is all braggers and complainers it seems. Oh, and advertisers, which was me. I used it almost daily to push the band - merch, gigs, new videos - and realized I was just spamming most of the time. But, with many of the gigs we booked, having an FB account was necessary to set up an event. Once the pandemic hit and I didn't have gigs booked, I finally was able to stop checking FB daily, then I only checked in once a week or so. Now I barely think about it, and yet still haven't ditched my account.

I like your approach @Chucktshoes with the streamlined friend list. I just know that once the band gets busy again I'll likely want the outreach that FB provides...but I'm very reluctant to dive back in.
I have to use Facebook for the dad's club I run for our kids' school. I have been searching for an easier option to communicate what we're doing and meet new members as a lot of dads in our school don't use Facebook or have sworn off it. So I totally get where you're coming from. As my time is running out in that position, I'm happy to be able to back away from Facebook for the reason I stated above. However, I do want to keep some of the content I enjoy reading. And I think that's the trick to a lot of these social media sites. Just make it where you read the things that don't aggravate you. Why spend your precious time being purposefully irritated? I realize that's a bit of making the bubbles a lot of people are using to insulate themselves and only get politics and news they agree with. But I think for my own mental health, it's better to not have these little bits of aggravation pop up and waste my time.

I don't want to fully discuss the reasons why but I found myself comparing one of my kids who is going through a tough time right now both with school, friends, and their own mental state with the happier kid who loved school and had plenty of friends that I previously posted about on Facebook. I found myself being sad that this kid no longer exists and that's not fair to them. I think it made me realize that Facebook is all about how you want life to be and not necessarily how life really is. Nor did I want to post what was going on with us at that time because that's not fair to my kid and I don't need to have a shared misery moment. It's just my own personal issue with Facebook. But I realize there are others who either only post the best parts of their lives or post the absolute worst parts of their life (the vaguebookers who say things like "worst day ever" in an attempt to get others to respond with questions or support). Then I also realized I didn't want to know certain things about people who were my "friends" such as their personal politics, the conspiracy theories they believe in, or their desire to ignore science they don't agree with. Sure, you can hide that content but it led me to ask myself why I was even "friends" with these people. So then I removed them.
 
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So far the courts have struck down PA's law. Do we expect the SCOTUS to continue the trend or weaken Roe V Wade?
 
The US has really lost its way.

(I'll take things we've known for years now, Alex)
I'm just going to leave this right here.
Human behavior is linked to our immediate experience. In this study, the authors talk about people's "tolerance for uncertainty", and unfortunately that definition is hidden behind a paywall (if it's really there at all). So I looked it up here: To address these gaps, we propose a new integrative definition and multidimensional conceptual model that construes UT as the set of negative and positive psychological responses—cognitive, emotional, and behavioral—provoked by the conscious awareness of ignorance about particular aspects of the world.

From the study:

“So whether a person in 2016 was a strongly committed Trump supporter or a strongly committed Clinton supporter, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that an aversion to uncertainty only exacerbates how similarly two conservative brains or two liberal brains respond when consuming political content.”

Jeroen van Baar, study co-author and a former post-doctoral researcher at Brown, said the findings are important because they show that factors other than political beliefs themselves can influence individuals’ ideological biases.

“We found that polarized perception — ideologically warped perceptions of the same reality — was strongest in people with the lowest tolerance for uncertainty in general,” said van Baar, who is now a research associate at Trimbos, the Netherlands Institute of Mental Health and Addiction. “This shows that some of the animosity and misunderstanding we see in society is not due to irreconcilable differences in political beliefs, but instead depends on surprising — and potentially solvable — factors such as the uncertainty people experience in daily life.”

Those participants — of any ideology — who were less tolerant to uncertainty in daily life (as reported on their survey responses) had more ideologically polarized brain responses than those who are better able to tolerate uncertainty.

“This suggests that aversion to uncertainty governs how the brain processes political information to form black-and-white interpretations of inflammatory political content,” the researchers wrote in the study.



What I read here, is that as the world becomes more and more erratic and uncertain--this means economic uncertainty which accounts for a large number of the US population, which also translates to more political instability, greater amounts of stress on regular people, and spills over into our health as humans--we have the potential to become more polarized, not because people have changed in any fundamental way, but instead, because of external stressors that make our lives much, much more uncertain. People on podcasts and radio, TV news, and the internet all produce polarizing content because it sells. Money is the motivator here, but many content creators don't understand the psychology behind why people are reacting to their content--which is dangerous.
 
I don't know if that's real or not, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was.

Why is the United States in bed with Israel? What's at stake?
This is a decent summing up of US-Israel history.


Well, until it cuts off...
 
Then I also realized I didn't want to know certain things about people who were my "friends" such as their personal politics, the conspiracy theories they believe in, or their desire to ignore science they don't agree with. Sure, you can hide that content but it led me to ask myself why I was even "friends" with these people. So then I removed them.
Just the other night chatting with my wife I compared FB to going to a bar/restaurant where everyone makes sure to tell you where they stand on things...even if I didn't ask. I wouldn't go to that establishment, so why would I go back to FB? I loved it at first of course...alllll my old high school friends were there; people who I hung out with before we really all even had strong stances or knew enough to have them. I now realize that just because we partied 25 years ago, doesn't mean I need them as FB or other sm contacts now. I need to let go.

I already scaled way back after the initial rush of checking in everywhere I went. I guess that goes with the Bragbook part of that platform: "I'm at this brewery, now I'm at this brewery" etc. A guy that came to see our band a lot showed up at a brewery my wife and I were at on vacation on a Sunday night. The guy doesn't drink, didn't come in for a beer, he came there to say hi to me because I advertised where I was. That was an invitation for pretty much anyone. He meant no harm but it freaked me out, and my wife even more. I doubt I'm saying anything here that most of you all haven't thought or expressed as well.
 
I left FB about 2 years ago. And it was one of the better decisions I've made for myself.

I tried to join a Buy Nothing group on FB as I was moving out of my old place. I explained to the admins that I don't have a FB profile but I was only trying to donate to people that might like them a bunch of really great furniture. They wouldn't let me in the group because they couldn't research me enough. Sadly, that meant the furniture ended up at the dump.

I really wish FB was not the platform used so much by local bands and venues and groups like Buy Nothing. There is zero reason to link those things to such a breeding ground of misinformation and hatred.
 
There are very few friends on Facebook that I haven't removed from my feed. I mostly use it for news I missed from Twitter, because it inevitably circulates on Facebook for 2-3 days after it happens. I've tried some local Facebook groups, but it's basically Nextdoor levels of old man yells at cloud. Even our local Buy/Sell/Trade groups suck.

I went through the Facebook braggart phase in college, especially relating to what bands I was seeing, but that was exhausting and now I only use my personal account as a photo repository with a few obligatory anniversary and birthday posts mixed in.

I already scaled way back after the initial rush of checking in everywhere I went

I still use Swarm religiously to check into places, but I have like 3 friends there so it's mostly just habit at this point. And the occasional "Oh what was that place called that we went to when we were in X city 7 years ago" conversations.
 
I really wish FB was not the platform used so much by local bands and venues
I totally agree. It's mostly the venues that require the bands to set up or join an event. I get it, it's free, but I don't love it.
And free doesn't mean there's no cost.
Facebook has never been great for bands or their music. Looking back, Myspace was pretty kick ass.
 
On July 15, the Internal Revenue Service (IRS) will begin dispensing monthly payments of $300 per child under 6 and $250 per child older than 6 to families who qualify. These benefits will be dispersed to families through direct deposit, paper check or debit card, every month on the 15th, or, if it is a weekend or a holiday, the closest available day to the 15th.


Maybe I should cross post in the parenting thread.
 
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